IS THERE A SPECIFIC AGE FOR MARRIAGE?

Many young men and women wonder about what the average age of marriage is, and what the right age to get married is. But instead of asking yourself what the best age to get married is, ask yourself these questions.

The average age to marry is unique and different across the world. But what is the right age to get married? And how can you ever tell if you’re too young to marry? The questions are many, but you know the truth, right? You can marry at any age, as long as both of you are in love. Or wait a minute, is it so simple? Can you really marry at any age, as long as you’re truly and deeply in love with each other? No, you can’t. Unfortunately, a successful marriage takes more than just true love to succeed.

ARE YOU READY TO MARRY?

Many people wonder if being eighteen or nineteen or even twenty is too young to get married. But there are so many things you have to consider. The right age to get married is a tricky way of looking at the problem. While the average age of marriage in several countries can give you some pointers, it’s not really personalized to give you the right answer.

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

Here are five pointers that everyone who wants to get married has to look into. While being too young to get married can seem like a scary factor, there are bigger things to consider. So irrespective of whether you’re eighteen or twenty five, ask yourself these questions. And if you’re unsure of even one of these pointers, it’s probably not the best age to get married, for you or your partner.

You really have to consider all these options before getting married, or you may end up in an unhappy relationship, or worse, destroy yourself physically and emotionally.

DO YOU HAVE THE FINANCIAL STABILITY?

Is this the right age for you to get married? Getting married is a commitment that goes beyond sharing popcorn and watching movies, or going out for dinner dates. While your life doesn’t really change after marriage, a marriage brings with it a sense of financial responsibility. You can’t really ask your dad to give you a week’s allowance or pocket money. Are you ready to take on that burden of looking after yourself and your new family?Are both of you earning enough in steady, well paying jobs to live comfortably and manage any sudden expenses that come along the way?

ARE BOTH OF YOU EMOTIONALLY MATURE?

The average age of marriage in your country will not affect your emotional maturity. It’s for you to decide. You may be partying late, having a lot of fun, and not worrying about what you are going to do the next morning. But for two people to live with each other happily as a married couple, you need to be emotionally mature.

You may have had a lot to deal with over your teenage years, like college assignments, dating, errands, meeting your friends, and tons of other stuff. Now, you are going to have to deal with twice as much, because you have a partner who is going to have their own share of problems too. Can you handle that? You can’t really shut your room door and lock yourself anymore.Your mum isn’t going to be outside your room door after cleaning the mess you created. Once you are married, no matter how difficult life gets, you can’t shut your problems away. You have to face it like a mature person. Are you ready for that? Is your lover ready for that? 

To be continued next week. Please drop your comments and questions in the comment box below.

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